Dating and marriage culture
I have dreamed of getting married since I was a young kid.
I used to imagine what it would be like to finally meet the love of my life and start my very own happily ever after.
If children are born to parents who aren’t married, or simply don’t use the same last name (see marriage traditions, below), they’ll sometimes be given a hyphenated last name combining the names of both parents, for example, “Martin-Jones.”Along with pointy party hats, the most common birthday tradition is giving the birthday boy or girl a special birthday cake with candles.
Friends sing the special birthday song ("Happy Birthday to You"), then the birthday kid tries to blow out all the flames in one breath. If there’s one thing Canadians love celebrating, it’s the anniversary of their own birth.
There’s huge pride in being VL (virgin lips) even after that, where someone will brag about how they have never kissed anyone.
Acts like making out, groping or intercourse are extremely frowned upon.
I have this vivid memory of planning what age exactly I would get married.
I don’t recall exactly how old I was at the time, but I decided that 21 seemed right and began to count down.
This can be great, and I have seen that it often encourages families to spend more time together.I played games about getting married and held ceremonies for my Barbie dolls.At one point I even forced my family to come watch my wedding to an imaginary friend of mine named Arthur.I honestly couldn’t imagine getting married right now, let alone after knowing someone for just a few months. I need to graduate, travel the world and find a career for myself.I feel like it’s important for me to establish my own individuality and gain the confidence that I can take care of myself before I can become part of a partnership.
Despite this, I still feel the pressure of Utah dating culture.