Dating educated women
“So since there are fewer men with the same education,” Brueckner continued, “you either have to find another group you can marry or you are out of luck.
You have nowhere to go.” Highly educated black men tend to “outmarry” (marry outside race, religion or ethnicity) at a higher rate than black women, researchers say.
“We are very caught up right now in [the controversy] over gay marriage. Whether people can have these kinds of emotionally satisfying experiences and if not, if that is unequal.” She also believes that these demographic facts, and the reasons for them, constrain the sexuality of some African-American women.
She has found that many more are celibate than are white women with similar education levels.
Turns out that if you and your mate are college educated, then your divorce rates are like, way low. It tells us that if we want to be married and stay married while we’re of child bearing age, we can’t be like my cousin.
There seems to be a sense of some policing of women’s sexuality.
“Their marriage chances have declined,” Brueckner explained.
“This may sound trivial but one reason is that they outnumber men in this education group.” The disparity in education is important because Americans have a strong tendency to marry those with equal levels of education, a trend that has only grown stronger since World War II.
“So for me it matters because love matters.” Declining marriage chances One big reason why these women remained childless is, as one might expect, that they go unmarried, experts say.
Among highly educated women of both races, about 22 percent between the ages of 20 and 45 were single in the 1970s. It has remained the same for white women, but now 38 percent of black women have never been married.
Yale researchers Natalie Nitsche and Hannah Brueckner argued that “marriage chances for highly educated black women have declined over time relative to white women.” Women of both races with postgraduate educations “face particularly hard choices between career and motherhood,” they said, “but especially in the absence of a reliable partner.” And there’s the rub.