Dating fathers with daughters
I don’t mean only physical characteristics, although that can also be present – I mean relational pattern characteristics.Even the women that state they chose partners who were opposite of their dad are basing their decisions on the relationship (or non-relationship) with dad – a choice to go opposite is still a choice based on dad. Topics will explore how different, early attachment patterns (including no attachment) can affect our current relationship choices and how we respond in relationships. Twitter: @Jen Kromberg Psy DFacebook: I made a mistake that was not obvious to me until I was in my forties.
I ended up marrying a control freak and having an affair with a man very much like my dad.
My dad has definitely had an affect on my romantic relationships.
I'm currently dating a guy who is very different from him in a lot of ways, and I like that because it makes me feel like he won't abandon me when times get tough.
If, like Rachel and me, everyday experiences included a giant, deep-voiced, lumberjack man, then that is what we imprinted as normal.
Not only does this influence ring true, but many, many studies including this from the have shown the influence of fathers on their daughters’ relationships.
So yeah, bottom-line is to let go and forgive yourself. Oh, my father certainly was emotional, cuddly some times even. consequently the daughters are almost of a victim identity...unconsciously!