Importance of body language in dating
One of the most surprising forms of nonverbal communication is the way we automatically adjust the amount of time we spend looking into another’s eyes as a function of our relative social position.That might sound counterintuitive because some people like to look everyone in the eye, while others tend to always look elsewhere, whether they are speaking to a CEO or the guy dropping a pack of chicken thighs into their bag at the local grocery store.Nonverbal communication forms a social language that is in many ways richer and more fundamental than our words.Our nonverbal sensors are so powerful that just the movements associated with body language – that is, minus the actual bodies – are enough to engender within us the ability to accurately perceive emotion.” The researchers were testing whether these more personal questions would be more threatening to the boyfriend, more invasive to his sense of intimate space. Unlike, say, a male baboon, who will start a fight when he sees another male sitting too close to a female in his group, the boyfriends didn’t do anything overtly aggressive. The scientists found that when the interviewer was nonthreatening – either a male who asked impersonal questions, or a female – the man in the couple tended to just hang out.But when the interviewer was a male asking personal questions, the boyfriend would subtly inject himself into the pow-wow, flashing what are called “tie-signs”, nonverbal cues meant to signal a connection with the woman.
Here is how it works: take the percentage of time you spend looking into someone’s eyes while you are speaking, and divide it by the percentage spent looking at that same person’s eyes while you are listening.In other words, if your visual dominance ratio is around 1.0 or higher, you are probably the boss; if it is around 0.6, you are probably the bossed.The unconscious mind provides us with many wonderful services, and performs many awesome feats, but I can’t help being impressed by this one.A visual dominance ratio near 1.0, or larger, is characteristic of people with relatively high social dominance.A visual dominance ratio less than 1.00 is indicative of being lower on the dominance hierarchy.