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Those married men and women who are sexually deprived often feel guilty expressing their disappointment, since in all other ways they feel so blessed. So, I will be the voice for those sexually deprived husbands and wives and state: your desire to have a healthy sexual relationship with your spouse is just that – healthy. Sigh….fourth night in a row I had been promised sex and another cancellation.
It is a normal need, it is not bratty, no matter how good you have it in all of the other areas of your life. Not even an acknowledgement of apology or recognition of regret over the disappointment. During lunch hours or times when we’re alone, sexual thoughts or gestures just don’t come to her.
She either: a) has had, is having, or is considering having an affair, or b) will eventually leave the marriage, or c) lives sexually unfilled and masturbates (which leaves her unfulfilled), despite this she remains.
As explained in scenario A, action does need to be taken.
I do still love her and wish to remain married to her.
Outcome For Scenario B: Wife lives an existence in marriage where she is sexually deprived.
Longing for sexual intimacy left unfulfilled in quantity and quality is a challenge, and a taboo topic for many. This blog article is not a discussion about different desires in frequency.
As a Psychotherapist who has been providing marriage counseling since 1993 I will share with you this secret; if you and your spouse lead an inactive sexual relationship, and your mate is not asexual, then your mate is not happy about this lack of intimacy. Nor is this article focusing on couples who are generally sexually active but the quality is not as fulfilling as one or both desires.
For now though, for the purposes of the particular focus of this blog – do it for your spouse. Or, does she views a man’s desire for his wife as something other than healthy? My wife and i are devote Christians with Three Teenage boys. You see, a couple’s sexual style is just that: a style.I do not have sexual needs, as far back as I can recall I never really did. Or, the scenario rather is: I never had a large sex drive, but it was certainly more than it currently is.My wife does have sexual desires and she is longing for sexual activity with me. I just don’t have an interest in being sexual with my wife, although I did at one time.Is it that she does not have sexual desires at all? I too feel a ministry birthing, but I fear that the lack of spontaneity in my marriage can be a problem. She gives me sex, actually after foreplay she gets into it. It becomes a style, a pattern due to years of the same start, during and stop process.Clearly, I’m not satisfied in the area of our sex life. If you are willing to put aside the emotions you may be feeling in connection with her not taking action on making a change. If you can consider this: how can I interact in an intimate way, in a sexual way, in an interactive way today, tomorrow, the next day and onward…